When anything unpleasant happens in our lives, we’ll have some people who commiserate with us and some who tell us to “get over it, let it go and move on.” Even though we don’t want to hear that second one, the second is every bit as much love as the first.
Divine love contains both challenge and support. By law there cannot be one without the other. We need both in our lives.
I know I’ve told people to “get over it, let go and move on.” I wasn’t trying to be mean. I just knew that the person needed to be issued a challenge and I cared about them.
I’ve had people tell me the same and I know it’s the truth. People who are never challenged and always supported become enabled. Enabling someone isn’t love. Letting them play small isn’t love.
I’m not saying we need to be mean to people. But you can bet your bottom dollar that if you are mean to someone, someone else will show up to support them equally.
Divine Equilibirum
It’s the divine law of equilibrium. And if we are super supportive, something will show up to beat them down. Sometimes that’s their own negative thinking.
As the recipient of challenge and support we must come to a place where we see the value in both — where we see the blessing in both. Then when we are grateful for both, divine love can fill our hearts.
We have to see that on some level those who criticize us are right and those who praise us are right. But we belong neither in the pit or on the pedestal. We are somewhere in between. We are human with shadows and light.
Take Neither Blame Nor Credit
When something happens we must neither take the blame or the credit. All our gifts are from God and if we become full of ourselves, life will find some way to slam us down. Or if we’re not valuing ourselves, life will bring us a series of events to make us wake up to our value.
The trick is to stay humble and grateful for every experience by choice. For he or she who will not humble themselves will be compelled to be humble.
Note: This is my summary of what I’m learning from life and Dr John Demartinis “The Breakthrough Experience.”
