Someone to Believe In Me
This man is my inspiration, my greatest encourager, my deepest friend. The way he cheers me on and believes in me reminds me so much of my mother. It’s fascinating that Dave showed up in my life within 4 months of her passing. It’s the divine law of compensation at work… nothing is ever lost. […]
Healing Cynicism and Contention
Have you noticed how quickly people make snap judgments about others and how often people take offense? It’s a rampant problem in our society. We could all probably agree that healing cynicism and contention in our society is a priority. But to heal the discord, we first have to understand the root cause of what is […]
Asking for Help – Affirmation Video
Do you have a hard time asking for help? Do you sometimes feel unsupported by the people in your life? Would you like to feel like you are enough and that God and other people are on your side assisting you? When you’ve been in relationships where you couldn’t count on other people to be […]
The Spring That Healed My Heartbreak
As I drive on gorgeous spring mornings like this one, enjoying the vibrant light, blue skies, and colorful blossoms bursting from trees and earth, my heart remembers last spring. In fact, for moments at a time I am there at the time of my greatest heartbreak. It was March 11 when my 2nd marriage ended […]
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
I listened to a thought provoking interview with author, Claire Mussud this morning. She talks about the stories we tell about others in our minds to make sense of what has happened and also the stories we tell about ourselves. This got me thinking about how our minds want to wrap up events into a nice […]
Missed Opportunities In Life and Relationships
Something happened with the little kids at church yesterday that illustrates a great truth about grief, mourning and lost / missed opportunities. I serve in the children’s organization at church. Yesterday one of the other women who serves there was conducting a sharing time with the little kids (ages 3-7). The kids love to participate. Whether […]
With Mama on My Wedding Day
On February 10, 2018 (my mother’s birthday), I married my best friend (David G. Kuhns) in the Nashville Temple of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. It’s been one crazy road since God first showed me that this man would enter my life. It’s been worth every challenge I’ve faced getting here. Dave’s […]
Recognizing Your Soul Mate – By Meyers Briggs Personality Type
How do you know you’ve met your soulmate? If you know your Meyers-Briggs personality type, here’s how to tell. If you don’t know your Meyers-Briggs personality type, there’s a free test here. INFJ ENFP Relationship Compatibility I love this description of how my personality type (Meyers-Briggs INFJ – Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging) knows she’s met […]
The Space Between Your Dreams and Reality
“Don’t be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so.” – Belva Davis In August of 2011, I caught the vision of the type of marital relationship I wanted to have. At the time, I didn’t know if the marriage I was in would […]
Romantic Connections: Pools and Oceans
Would you prefer a deep, rich romantic connection? Or are you satisfied with a more surface relationship? If you’re someone who longs to connect with your companion on multiple levels (spiritual, physical, emotional, intellectual and chemical), read on… I believe that no experience is wasted if we can learn something from it, and especially if […]
Resurrecting the Dream
Sometimes when you go for big dreams, they have to die first. Here’s my personal story of going for a dream, letting it die and resurrecting the dream. A Decision for a Better Life In August of 2011, life was good, my business was thriving, but I was not happy in my personal life. My […]
The More Breathtaking the Vistas, the More Arduous the Climb
Several years ago I set in motion a new trajectory for my life. I caught the vision of something wonderful and idealistic and I began working toward it — making major lifestyle adjustments and tough choices. In time, my life became anything but idealistic. It was hard and the further I went, the more that […]
Annoying Behavior – What to Do About It
We all have times when someone else’s annoying behavior becomes more than we can stand. If there is someone in your life who annoys you because you perceive they won’t step up and carry their fair share of the load, ask yourself these questions: Where am I not stepping up in some are of my […]
Perspectives and Assumptions
I’ve spent most of my life trying to understand the world and people by attempting to see things from other peoples’ perspectives. I once wrote a historical crime novel based on a true story (An Uncertain Justice) and was able to solve a 1920’s mystery by locating multiple accounts of the crime. The key was […]
Treasures of the Heart
One of my favorite things to do is to listen to people’s lives, experience, and thoughts and relish in the treasures I find there. Hundreds, probably more like a thousand people, have shared with me a glimpse into their lives. When they do I say something like, “Do you see the pattern here? Do you […]
Working for Peace in a Romantic Relationship
I’ve always considered myself an easy going, low maintenance person. I get along with most people and I’ve wanted to keep the peace. I do have my opinions on some things. While I’ll listen to other views and sometimes adjust mine, I can be insistent on things that are key values for me. Yes, I’m […]
Dating Again: The Way He Makes Me Feel
I’m dating a poet and so it brings out the poet in me. Here’s a fun one I whipped up this morning. He makes me laugh. He makes me feel. He makes me think. He makes me reel. He makes me grateful. He makes me talk. He makes me thoughtful. He makes me walk Through […]
Suddenly Life Has New Meaning to Me
I just remembered that Monday would have been my two year wedding anniversary. I didn’t think of it or the man at all. I think that’s a good sign that my healing is substantially complete and I’m on to brighter days. Most likely it happened because I’m dating a man who completely obliterates all other […]
Depth of Understanding
My last post was a vulnerable leap for me. There are some people who think I’m rushing into dating too fast after what I’ve been through. I get “be careful’s” and cautions. Reaching a Point of Acceptance I honestly had no intention of moving into another relationship for another 2-3 years. I had reached a […]
Single Again: Dating with a Fresh Approach
Here I am… single again. Dating. Uggh, I really did NOT want to be here. But somehow the transition has come effortlessly and really quite unintentionally. What’s more, I’m having so much fun! This time I’m looking at dating with a new perspective. Since reading The Breakthrough Experience, I’m avoiding becoming overly infatuated. I have […]
